So, you're in your 50s! You go, Katrina. [Stamboulieh, YourStory, MWP, April 2014] Being another square-pegged, 51-year-young lady, I appreciate your journey, and your entertaining report on said journey. I agree wholeheartedly with your advice.
Shanan Tolzin, Minneapolis
Suicide, and those left behind My advice to Julie Anne Wilbert is to stop trying to make sense of suicide. [YourStory, MWP, April 2014] If she is blocked by religious rules, learn forgiveness. If not blocked, learn acceptance.
I first experienced/survived suicide in my 20s. I will be 65 next month. First, a male college friend parked his car in a closed garage and kept it running. Six months later, a childhood female friend took pills and lay down in her bed. One religion judged and condemned; one religion forgave and embraced. I was sad and confused. My personal journey from confusion to acceptance began.
In my 30s, two friends ended their own lives. In my early 40s, I lost my younger brother and a stepsister to suicide. In the last decade, another stepsister and my mother died, both to self-starvation while in care facilities.
I am one of millions with depression and will someday end my life; my family and friends have been well-informed. If I had terminal cancer, much of the world would accept my decision and my right to die. But because my incurable, terminal illness cannot be seen - and is rarely understood - I will be judged and most likely condemned by those who do not know me. It won't matter; I won't be here.
Nancy Lanthier, Little Canada
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