You've done your duty when it comes to conforming to the norm. Now get out there and take a chance, live your dream and don't let people steal it anymore! -- Katrina Stamboulieh
by Katrina Stamboulieh
Being in my 50s has been very traumatic; all sorts of realizations reared their heads and shook their fists at me. Although my kids were grown, I wanted to keep running their lives - but they just ignored my advice. I realized then that I was free.
So I set out to create an enviable lifestyle for myself. I tried various jobs and basically, to use the teenage vernacular, sucked at them. I ate through my savings. Don't get me wrong! I was enjoying myself,
As usually happens in pitiful stories, I ran out of money. The friends who had cheered me on in my adventures scathingly pointed out that my change of careers looked really bad on a résumé. And guess what? The recession hit. No one wanted to hire me. I was old, I wasn't a success and I hadn't hit any glass ceilings lately.
One of the things that struck me during this lapse in my sanity was how people judge you when it comes to successes and failures. Basically, you have to be a round peg that fits snugly into a round hole. If you try to put your round peg into a square hole and don't succeed, no one is there to pat you on the back and encourage you to keep going. They somehow morph into an expert on where you went wrong!
And that brings me to my point. Give IT a try! It doesn't matter what IT is, just try it. How much time do you really have? You've done your duty when it comes to conforming to the norm. Now get out there and take a chance, live your dream and don't let people steal it anymore!
I hate to use the word failure, but if you fail at your specific goal, I can guarantee you that the people you have met on the journey and the lessons you have learned about yourself and others will be priceless.
Rejections - they are just steps closer to your goal, so revel in them. Sometimes rejection comes with good advice.
After I received a sizable amount of rejection, I buffered myself with the knowledge that Margaret Mitchell's manuscript for "Gone with the Wind" was rejected more than 100 times before being published. Pegasus Books published my first novel, "In Plain Sight."
In the days before my book was published, I had come to the conclusion that it really didn't matter. I had finished it, and loved every minute of the process.
Katrina Stamboulieh is still striving to become a full-time writer. Her second novel, "The Buses," will be published in 2014. She lives in Robbinsdale.